Don't communicate to your children or imply through your words and actions that their other parent was a mistake on your part. Even if you feel you've failed your children by choosing the other parent, this is not the best thing to say or show. It is almost impossible to communicate such without having the children questioning, doubting, mistaking, and viewing their own existence as a mistake or failure. Remember, love is sacrificing self for the benefit of another. It is the universal language, and when communicated authentically, it is never misunderstood. So in everything you say and do in relation to the other parent, make sure it comes from a place of authentic love. Regardless of your opinions or actions of the other parent, that person will forever be your PARTNER in the creation of the child, and without their contribution, the child would not exist. So, it is your responsibility to convince your children that EVERYTHING about their existence and creation was divinely ordered for GOOD. In every situation, "Children are a blessing from The Lord...Like arrows in the hand of a warrior!"
Happy Sunday,
Mama Tameka
